think of your true love … it’s a woman, isn’t it ? for today, platonically. girl bffs are truly a match made in heaven. it is the purest form of love. there’s something about a relationship with two women that transcends through space and time.

*disclaimer: i know i say women throughout this article however this applies to all genders. for today, i’m going to be talking about my experience with all women. 


i’ve had many girl friends. what can i say ? i’m the ultimate girls girl. i was hanging out with a good friend of mine the other day and was thinking about how beautiful our bond is. it means sm to me and makes me emo.

i’ve recently become friends with an old coworker this year. this weekend we went to a garden and took pictures of the tulips, the plants in the greenhouse and all of the water fountains. like, how amazing is that ? the sun shined on me, there was a spring breeze in the air and her presence was comforting. she’s soft-spoken, talented, smart and beautiful on the inside and out. she is always lifting others up when they speak or feel down. i’m so lucky to say that she’s my friend. as we were walking through a sea of bumblebees and asking if we’d rather be a bird who lives in a garden or a bee (she said bird because she would like to live in the trees and i said bumblebee because there were an extraordinary amount of flowers in the area), i realized just how pure a platonic bond is between two women.

i met my best friend with the most magnificent soul when i was fifteen. we were girls in every universe. although not as close anymore, it is a relationship that i write, talk, and think about on a day-to-day basis. i miss her dearly. she shaped who i am as a person. we would talk about everything under the sun and listen to whatever the other person had to say — obviously — because we were friends and that’s what friends do. we would talk about our future, desires, dreams, hardships, love, sex, school, and don’t forget the plenty of stupid and funny shit. the amount of piss filled pants i had to wash in high school is definitely more than i will admit. rn she’s headed towards a career that involves helping people and i believe that is who she is. she deserves everything and more. 

i have yet to find another friendship like that one — not that that’s a bad thing. all of my relationships are simply just different. definitely more adult. no more sleepovers or hanging out for a week straight (sad … ik). i will say it is weird making plans with a friend and then going to add it to your calendar right away. “hang out w/ suzy 5pm est.” 

surrounding yourself with women can be really enlightening. you notice the little things they do. they will get you “feel better” baskets when you’re having a bad day. they will pick up flowers from trader joes to treat themselves, put them in their favorite vase and place them in the center of the counter. they will send you long voice memos talking about how work was dreadful today. they will sit on a bench for hours with you and talk about how the worm wiggling on the cement “is coquette” because it is amongst flower petals from the tree above it. they will buy candles for when they clean their room. they’ll ask you what perfume you’re wearing and then write the name in their notes app. they will have so much love to give out to everyone (even for people who don’t deserve it) and not offer themselves a little bit of it.

i’m really excited to grow throughout life and meet more amazing women i can be friends with because they definitely have the capability of changing my life and seeing things for the better. may this be a love letter to my past, present and future friendships.

i’ll c u next week <3 
ziggy

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