ur personality
is ‘boyfriend’
published: 3.21.24
by ziggy
we all know her — the girl who always wants a boyfriend, always has a boyfriend, or is always talking about her ex boyfriend. we know her and we hate her. her personality is boyfriend.
today we are talking about the girl whose personality is ‘boyfriend.’ in this article, i’m going to be discussing women in heterosexual relationships — because that’s where i see it the most — and also commenting on how this has to do with most women and our need to center ourselves around men.
i’m gonna be so very real with you guys, i’m the girl whose personality is ‘boyfriend,’ so i’m also speaking from experience and am doing some needed self-reflection. let’s be honest, the call is coming from inside the house. if you don’t know anyone like this then i have some news for you … you might want to sit down.
in high school i never had a boyfriend. shocker right ? especially considering i’m so funny, smart, talented and beautiful. i think men were just so intimidated by me and i was too good for them. no guy wanted me, however i somehow managed to put them in the center of my universe. i would always go for the guys that wanted nothing to do with me. i literally asked a guy to prom and he straight up said no lmao. it’s really sad to think about because i was so much more than who i was attracted to yet i thought that i deserved less based on how i was being treated. the only thing on my mind was “boyfriend. boyfriend. boyfriend.” because who am i if not desired ?
not being wanted romantically throughout my teen years made my perception of myself really weird, so when someone did like me i was like “literally no you don’t” and didn’t believe it. this resulted in settling for less. double tap if you crode (”cried” but meme form.)
i am always surrounded by ethereal, clever, brilliant women who have so much to offer, yet the only thing that comes out of their mouth is about some guy they saw over the weekend and is wondering why he won’t text her back or if he’s ghosting her. although who am i to talk bc the guys i would see treated me like doo doo which caused their treatment of me to be the only thing i talked about to my friends – or even strangers on the bus. so really, i get it, i understand, and i feel you.
to quote Greta Gerwig’s “Little Women”: “women have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. they’ve got ambition and they’ve got talent as well as just beauty. i am so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for. i’m so sick of it! but — i am so lonely.”
i know i’ve said this about a million times in this article just in different ways but we are literally so much more interesting and human than a man who says things like "when's men's history month ?" and is 100% serious (to which we respond "every gd month it feels like"). why do we put all of our worth into what he thinks of us ? there is nothing going on in his brain so why do we care if we occupy it ?
rn i’d rather be lonely than go through the daily rollercoaster of emotions that are based on whether a guy texted me back or not. also, i want to note that when i discuss this, i’m only talking about the misogynists — the ones who don’t care if you live or die and just see you as an object that benefits themselves and themselves only. #notallmen yeah yeah yeah whatever. dare i say, however, there are plenty of secret misogynists that will manipulate you into thinking they are written by a woman yet they are just like the rest of them. yeah … hell is HOT for them.
“ziggy, have you ever thought of being in a queer relationship ?”
yeah.
“lmao and ??? i think it would benefit you tremendously.”
i think so too.
i think all women are the most show-stopping, quick-witted, interesting, loving, caring people on the entire planet and guys just exist ???? there’s nothing more painful to me than seeing the most amazing woman dating, like, just a guy. it’s “she’s everything. he’s just ken.” personified — like there’s an epidemic going on.
anyways, when i date a woman you guys will be the fourth to know but trust i will mention it. however rn i’m dating jacob elordi and he treats me like a queen so for now i will have to disregard your suggestion but i will ponder on it.
today we are talking about the girl whose personality is ‘boyfriend.’ in this article, i’m going to be discussing women in heterosexual relationships — because that’s where i see it the most — and also commenting on how this has to do with most women and our need to center ourselves around men.
i’m gonna be so very real with you guys, i’m the girl whose personality is ‘boyfriend,’ so i’m also speaking from experience and am doing some needed self-reflection. let’s be honest, the call is coming from inside the house. if you don’t know anyone like this then i have some news for you … you might want to sit down.
in high school i never had a boyfriend. shocker right ? especially considering i’m so funny, smart, talented and beautiful. i think men were just so intimidated by me and i was too good for them. no guy wanted me, however i somehow managed to put them in the center of my universe. i would always go for the guys that wanted nothing to do with me. i literally asked a guy to prom and he straight up said no lmao. it’s really sad to think about because i was so much more than who i was attracted to yet i thought that i deserved less based on how i was being treated. the only thing on my mind was “boyfriend. boyfriend. boyfriend.” because who am i if not desired ?
not being wanted romantically throughout my teen years made my perception of myself really weird, so when someone did like me i was like “literally no you don’t” and didn’t believe it. this resulted in settling for less. double tap if you crode (”cried” but meme form.)
i am always surrounded by ethereal, clever, brilliant women who have so much to offer, yet the only thing that comes out of their mouth is about some guy they saw over the weekend and is wondering why he won’t text her back or if he’s ghosting her. although who am i to talk bc the guys i would see treated me like doo doo which caused their treatment of me to be the only thing i talked about to my friends – or even strangers on the bus. so really, i get it, i understand, and i feel you.
to quote Greta Gerwig’s “Little Women”: “women have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. they’ve got ambition and they’ve got talent as well as just beauty. i am so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for. i’m so sick of it! but — i am so lonely.”
i know i’ve said this about a million times in this article just in different ways but we are literally so much more interesting and human than a man who says things like "when's men's history month ?" and is 100% serious (to which we respond "every gd month it feels like"). why do we put all of our worth into what he thinks of us ? there is nothing going on in his brain so why do we care if we occupy it ?
rn i’d rather be lonely than go through the daily rollercoaster of emotions that are based on whether a guy texted me back or not. also, i want to note that when i discuss this, i’m only talking about the misogynists — the ones who don’t care if you live or die and just see you as an object that benefits themselves and themselves only. #notallmen yeah yeah yeah whatever. dare i say, however, there are plenty of secret misogynists that will manipulate you into thinking they are written by a woman yet they are just like the rest of them. yeah … hell is HOT for them.
“ziggy, have you ever thought of being in a queer relationship ?”
yeah.
“lmao and ??? i think it would benefit you tremendously.”
i think so too.
i think all women are the most show-stopping, quick-witted, interesting, loving, caring people on the entire planet and guys just exist ???? there’s nothing more painful to me than seeing the most amazing woman dating, like, just a guy. it’s “she’s everything. he’s just ken.” personified — like there’s an epidemic going on.
anyways, when i date a woman you guys will be the fourth to know but trust i will mention it. however rn i’m dating jacob elordi and he treats me like a queen so for now i will have to disregard your suggestion but i will ponder on it.
i’ll c u next week <3
ziggy
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